For couples who are already close
Find out what you both want.
You each answer the same list privately. Anything you agree on shows up. Anything you don't stays yours - your partner never sees it, and never knows it was there.
Free on Android · iPhone coming soon · 18+
No profiles, no photos, no feed · Unlink anytime
Nothing is revealed alone
A yes only appears when it is mutual. There is no version of this where you are the only one who said something.
Discovery, not confession
Most couples find something the other was interested in all along and never brought up. That is the whole point.
It becomes a plan
Matches turn into a date night, a draw from your five favorites, or a month you are both looking forward to.
The conversation you keep almost having, without having to start it.What YesList is for
How it works
Four steps, and only one of them involves talking.
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STEP 1
Link with your partner
Share a code, a QR, or a link. One partner at a time, and you can unlink whenever.
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STEP 2
Answer on your own
Rate each prompt honestly and at your own pace. Nobody is watching.
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STEP 3
See where you agree
Once you have both answered the same thing, it unlocks - ranked by how strongly you both feel.
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STEP 4
Turn it into a plan
Spin for a date night, draw from your five favorites, or lay out a whole month.
Best on your phone.
YesList was built as an app first, and that is where it works the way it is meant to - private on a device only you unlock, with a nudge when your partner has answered something new. You can start here on the web and pick up on your phone later; it is the same account either way.
Common questions
Can my partner see what I said?
Only where you both said the same thing. A no is never shown, and there is no "they declined" state to read between the lines of.
Do I need the app?
No, but it is better. The site covers the same account; the app adds a screen lock and tells you when your partner has answered.
What does it cost?
Nothing. There is no paywall on the app or the website.
Who is it for?
Couples who are already together - dating seriously, living together, married - who want an easier way to talk about being close.
Do we both need an account?
Yes. You each answer on your own device, which is what makes a match mean anything. You can start before your partner joins.
Can I delete everything?
Yes, from the app or from this site, and it takes your answers with it.